The amount of hands is not enough
Except that I hate to say, if “a romantic relationship” is what you define as marriage, you’ve either never been married, or if you have, it didn’t or hasn’t lasted longer than 10 months.
Romance is neither the end goal nor the ultimate driving force of marriage. The attitude that it is is what the guy on top is criticizing
This. And honestly, I think this attitude is why there’s so many issues with marriage in modern society, why less and less people are going through with it and more and more couples are getting divorced. Marriage is becoming more commonly viewed as just a “legalized” romantic and/or sexual relationship.
Marriage is not all about romance, and certainly not all about sexual attraction. Those things can be part of it, sure, but if they’re the sole driving factors of the relationship, you’re probably not going to get very far.
Marriage is about commitment, loyalty, love (not just of the romantic variety), selflessness, service, and family. Yes, family…also seemingly a less popular lifestyle nowadays. But families are the most basic functioning unit of society. Strong families lead to stronger communities, and families are most stable when they have a mother and a father who both remain loyal and love each other and their children. This is such and important principle that is so horribly underrated in our society and the gradual destruction of this structure is the root of so many modern issues.
Does that mean every married couple has to have children? Not necessary. For some it may not be the right path for them in this life, and others may just be unable to due to fertility problems and the like. But that doesn’t make their marriage any less about commitment, loyalty, etc.
It’s not about romance, sex, or “fun”.
It’s about selfless love, service, and commitment from both sides. For life. (and beyond.)